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10 Ways to Build Resilience


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Developing resilience is a personal journey. People react differently to traumatic and stressful life events.
The following tips were prepared by the American Psychological Association (APA) and appear in a brochure, entitled "The Road to Resilience." For a copy of the brochure, which also lists places to look for help, call 1-800-964-2000, or visit the APA Help C

10 Ways to Build Resilience


Stress Relief Image Gallery
Stress Relief Image Gallery
Building resilience can help you power through tough times. See more stress relief pictures.
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Developing resilience is a personal journey. People react differently to traumatic and stressful life events.
The following tips were prepared by the American Psychological Association (APA) and appear in a brochure, entitled "The Road to Resilience." For a copy of the brochure, which also lists places to look for help, call 1-800-964-2000, or visit the APA Help C

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Meditation


Meditation of one style or another can be found in most of the major religions, including Christianity, Judaism, Buddhism, Hinduism and Islam. Generally, Eastern religions have tended to concentrate on meditation as a means of realising spiritual enlightenment. This has also included many health-promoting practices.

These days, meditation is practiced for both health and religious reasons, although many people know it most as a self-help tool for promoting good health and managing stress. Meditating for spiritual expansion and fulfilment, without a religious basis, is becoming more common.

Many forms of meditation result in clearing your mind, which promotes a sense of calm and heightened awareness. During meditation, your brain’s activity alters significantly, as shown by a devices such as electroencephalographs (EEG) and magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) equipment.

The most well known brain waves evident during many kinds of meditation are called alpha waves, which accompany relaxation of the entire nervous system and body. Gamma, delta and theta brain waves also accompany some types of meditation and are associated with various altered states of consciousness.

Scientific studies show that the regular practice of meditation can be a powerful healing tool. In fact, there is now clear evidence from studies of long-term meditators that meditation produces profound changes in the brain, and that recovery from some physical and emotional illnesses is assisted by the practice of meditation.

Meditation and disorders


There is a large number of physical, emotional and psychological conditions that are shown by research to be favourably influenced by meditation.

Some disorders that meditation can be used to help include:
  • Anxiety
  • Chronic pain
  • Depression
  • Headaches
  • High blood pressure
  • Insomnia
  • Migraines
  • Stress
  • Life-threatening physical illnesses
  • Recovery from accident or illness
  • A sense of lack of belonging or purpose.

Benefits of meditation


The direct benefits of meditation can include:
  • Improved physical, emotional and mental health
  • Focused and clear thinking
  • Improved memory
  • Enhancing a sense of self and personal presence
  • Increased emotional balance
  • Greater relaxation and ease
  • More equanimity in the face of challenges
  • Satisfaction in life
  • An improved sense of spiritual fulfilment and awakening.

Calming the nervous system


Resting your mind has a dramatic effect on brain activity. When your brain moves into an alpha wave state, many physiological changes occur, starting with the autonomic nervous system. One of the main roles of the autonomic nervous system is to regulate glands and organs without any effort from our conscious minds.

The autonomic nervous system is made up of two parts, called the sympathetic and the parasympathetic. These systems act in opposite yet complementary ways: the sympathetic nervous system ‘revs up’ the body, while the parasympathetic calms it down. Chronic stress or burnout can occur when the sympathetic nervous system dominates for too long.

During an alpha wave state, the parasympathetic half of the autonomic nervous system comes to the fore. This results in lowered blood pressure and heart rate, a reduction in stress hormones and slowed metabolism. If meditation is practised regularly, these beneficial changes become relatively permanent.

Research combining relatively new technology (magnetic resonance imaging, or MRI) and the talents of long-term meditators has revealed marked changes in both brain function and structure. Finding evidence of these types of changes adds Western scientific validation to many of the claims made by advanced meditators for centuries.

Types of meditation


Meditation has evolved out of numerous approaches to life, religions and philosophies, which means there are many different techniques to choose from. Some examples include:
  • Concentrating on the breath – consciously noticing the movement of air in and out of your nostrils, or counting the breath in various ways
  • Mindfulness – cultivating awareness of inner experiences (such as bodily sensations, feelings, thoughts and memories) and simply observing them without judgement
  • Emptying the mind – allowing the mind to clear and ‘float’, gently pushing aside any stray thoughts, or allowing thoughts to float in and out of awareness
  • Looking at an object – focusing your attention, but not necessarily your thoughts, on the shape, sound and texture of an object such as a tree, a candle flame, or a spiritually significant painting or ‘diagram’
  • Movement – using a physical technique like yoga, qi gong or tai chi to still the mind by coordinating the breath and the body with gentle movement
  • Using a mantra – repeating a word or phrase over and over, either aloud or silently, sometimes timed with the breath, to focus the attention and release different energies that benefit our bodies and minds.

Practising meditation


Whatever your preferred technique, it helps to have a quiet place, a comfortable sitting position and around five minutes to half an hour without outside distractions. Set an alarm if you don’t want to lose track of time.

Contrary to popular belief, you don’t have to sit cross-legged on the floor in order to meditate. You can sit in a chair or sit up in bed. You might just fall asleep, however, if you try to meditate lying down, which defeats the purpose of doing it.

Many people prefer to meditate while moving around. When meditating like this, it is important to make sure that your activities are an expression of inner focus, not a distraction from whatever we are experiencing. The activity is done slowly and attentively.

Examples include walking, swimming or doing something repetitive that is not distracting (such as washing dishes, digging in the garden or sweeping). The activity is not the purpose – it is a means of focusing and holding attention on inner processes.

Meditating every day at around the same time can help you develop a regular habit and make it easier and quicker to slip into deeply meditative states. You can master many meditation practices by yourself. However, some people prefer to attend classes and learn in a group from an experienced teacher, and there are certainly many benefits from doing this.

Trying too hard to meditate


Trying to meditate is a lot like trying to sleep – attempting to force it can often make it more difficult. Thinking of a meditation session as a chance to relax rather than as a discipline you have to master, can make a great difference.

If your attention wanders, practice acceptance and avoid getting annoyed with yourself. Simply direct your attention back to what you are doing and your experience of that moment.

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Meditation


Meditation of one style or another can be found in most of the major religions, including Christianity, Judaism, Buddhism, Hinduism and Islam. Generally, Eastern religions have tended to concentrate on meditation as a means of realising spiritual enlightenment. This has also included many health-promoting practices.

These days, meditation is practiced for both health and religious reasons, although many people know it most as a self-help tool for promoting good health and managing stress. Meditating for spiritual expansion and fulfilment, without a religious basis, is becoming more common.

Many forms of meditation result in clearing your mind, which promotes a sense of calm and heightened awareness. During meditation, your brain’s activity alters significantly, as shown by a devices such as electroencephalographs (EEG) and magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) equipment.

The most well known brain waves evident during many kinds of meditation are called alpha waves, which accompany relaxation of the entire nervous system and body. Gamma, delta and theta brain waves also accompany some types of meditation and are associated with various altered states of consciousness.

Scientific studies show that the regular practice of meditation can be a powerful healing tool. In fact, there is now clear evidence from studies of long-term meditators that meditation produces profound changes in the brain, and that recovery from some physical and emotional illnesses is assisted by the practice of meditation.

Meditation and disorders


There is a large number of physical, emotional and psychological conditions that are shown by research to be favourably influenced by meditation.

Some disorders that meditation can be used to help include:
  • Anxiety
  • Chronic pain
  • Depression
  • Headaches
  • High blood pressure
  • Insomnia
  • Migraines
  • Stress
  • Life-threatening physical illnesses
  • Recovery from accident or illness
  • A sense of lack of belonging or purpose.

Benefits of meditation


The direct benefits of meditation can include:
  • Improved physical, emotional and mental health
  • Focused and clear thinking
  • Improved memory
  • Enhancing a sense of self and personal presence
  • Increased emotional balance
  • Greater relaxation and ease
  • More equanimity in the face of challenges
  • Satisfaction in life
  • An improved sense of spiritual fulfilment and awakening.

Calming the nervous system


Resting your mind has a dramatic effect on brain activity. When your brain moves into an alpha wave state, many physiological changes occur, starting with the autonomic nervous system. One of the main roles of the autonomic nervous system is to regulate glands and organs without any effort from our conscious minds.

The autonomic nervous system is made up of two parts, called the sympathetic and the parasympathetic. These systems act in opposite yet complementary ways: the sympathetic nervous system ‘revs up’ the body, while the parasympathetic calms it down. Chronic stress or burnout can occur when the sympathetic nervous system dominates for too long.

During an alpha wave state, the parasympathetic half of the autonomic nervous system comes to the fore. This results in lowered blood pressure and heart rate, a reduction in stress hormones and slowed metabolism. If meditation is practised regularly, these beneficial changes become relatively permanent.

Research combining relatively new technology (magnetic resonance imaging, or MRI) and the talents of long-term meditators has revealed marked changes in both brain function and structure. Finding evidence of these types of changes adds Western scientific validation to many of the claims made by advanced meditators for centuries.

Types of meditation


Meditation has evolved out of numerous approaches to life, religions and philosophies, which means there are many different techniques to choose from. Some examples include:
  • Concentrating on the breath – consciously noticing the movement of air in and out of your nostrils, or counting the breath in various ways
  • Mindfulness – cultivating awareness of inner experiences (such as bodily sensations, feelings, thoughts and memories) and simply observing them without judgement
  • Emptying the mind – allowing the mind to clear and ‘float’, gently pushing aside any stray thoughts, or allowing thoughts to float in and out of awareness
  • Looking at an object – focusing your attention, but not necessarily your thoughts, on the shape, sound and texture of an object such as a tree, a candle flame, or a spiritually significant painting or ‘diagram’
  • Movement – using a physical technique like yoga, qi gong or tai chi to still the mind by coordinating the breath and the body with gentle movement
  • Using a mantra – repeating a word or phrase over and over, either aloud or silently, sometimes timed with the breath, to focus the attention and release different energies that benefit our bodies and minds.

Practising meditation


Whatever your preferred technique, it helps to have a quiet place, a comfortable sitting position and around five minutes to half an hour without outside distractions. Set an alarm if you don’t want to lose track of time.

Contrary to popular belief, you don’t have to sit cross-legged on the floor in order to meditate. You can sit in a chair or sit up in bed. You might just fall asleep, however, if you try to meditate lying down, which defeats the purpose of doing it.

Many people prefer to meditate while moving around. When meditating like this, it is important to make sure that your activities are an expression of inner focus, not a distraction from whatever we are experiencing. The activity is done slowly and attentively.

Examples include walking, swimming or doing something repetitive that is not distracting (such as washing dishes, digging in the garden or sweeping). The activity is not the purpose – it is a means of focusing and holding attention on inner processes.

Meditating every day at around the same time can help you develop a regular habit and make it easier and quicker to slip into deeply meditative states. You can master many meditation practices by yourself. However, some people prefer to attend classes and learn in a group from an experienced teacher, and there are certainly many benefits from doing this.

Trying too hard to meditate


Trying to meditate is a lot like trying to sleep – attempting to force it can often make it more difficult. Thinking of a meditation session as a chance to relax rather than as a discipline you have to master, can make a great difference.

If your attention wanders, practice acceptance and avoid getting annoyed with yourself. Simply direct your attention back to what you are doing and your experience of that moment.

Better Health Channel

Negative emotions - coping tips


Summary

Anger, sadness, jealousy and hatred are termed 'negative emotions' because they make you lose confidence and feel miserable about yourself and others. There are some simple strategies to deal with negative emotions.

Negative emotions can be described as any feeling which causes you to be miserable and sad. These emotions make you dislike yourself and others, and take away your confidence.

Emotions which can become negative are hate, anger, jealousy and sadness. Yet, in the right context, these feelings are completely natural. Negative emotions can dampen our enthusiasm for life, depending on how long we let them affect us and the way we choose to express them.

Holding onto negative emotions causes a downward spiral


Negative emotions stop us from thinking and behaving rationally and seeing situations in their true perspective. When this occurs, we tend to see only we want to see and remember only what we want to remember. This only prolongs the anger or grief and prevents us from enjoying life.

The longer this goes on, the more entrenched the problem becomes. Dealing with negative emotions inappropriately can also be harmful - for example, expressing anger with violence.

Emotions are complex reactions


Emotions are psychological (what we think) and biological (what we feel). Our brain responds to our thoughts by releasing hormones and chemicals which send us into a state of arousal. All emotions come about in this way, whether positive or negative.

It is a complex process and often we don't have the skills to deal with negative feelings. That’s why we find it hard to cope when we experience them.

How to deal with negative emotions


There are a number of coping strategies to deal with negative emotions. These include:
  • Don’t blow things out of proportion by going over them time and again in your mind.
  • Try to be reasonable - accept that bad feelings are occasionally unavoidable and think of ways to make yourself feel better.
  • Relax - use pleasant activities like reading, walking or talking to a friend.
  • Learn - notice how grief, loss and anger make you feel and which events trigger those feelings so you can prepare in advance.
  • Exercise - aerobic activity lowers your level of stress chemicals and allows you to cope better with negative emotions.
  • Let go of the past - constantly going over negative events robs you of the present and makes you feel bad.

Where to get help

  • Your doctor
  • Your local community health centre
  • The Mental Health Foundation of Victoria Tel. (03) 9427 0406

Things to remember

  • In the right context, negative emotions like anger, grief, sadness or jealousy are perfectly normal.
  • Long lasting bouts of negative emotions can stop you enjoying life.
  • Coping strategies can help to curb persistent negative feelings
  • Better Health Channel

Negative emotions - coping tips


Summary

Anger, sadness, jealousy and hatred are termed 'negative emotions' because they make you lose confidence and feel miserable about yourself and others. There are some simple strategies to deal with negative emotions.

Negative emotions can be described as any feeling which causes you to be miserable and sad. These emotions make you dislike yourself and others, and take away your confidence.

Emotions which can become negative are hate, anger, jealousy and sadness. Yet, in the right context, these feelings are completely natural. Negative emotions can dampen our enthusiasm for life, depending on how long we let them affect us and the way we choose to express them.

Holding onto negative emotions causes a downward spiral


Negative emotions stop us from thinking and behaving rationally and seeing situations in their true perspective. When this occurs, we tend to see only we want to see and remember only what we want to remember. This only prolongs the anger or grief and prevents us from enjoying life.

The longer this goes on, the more entrenched the problem becomes. Dealing with negative emotions inappropriately can also be harmful - for example, expressing anger with violence.

Emotions are complex reactions


Emotions are psychological (what we think) and biological (what we feel). Our brain responds to our thoughts by releasing hormones and chemicals which send us into a state of arousal. All emotions come about in this way, whether positive or negative.

It is a complex process and often we don't have the skills to deal with negative feelings. That’s why we find it hard to cope when we experience them.

How to deal with negative emotions


There are a number of coping strategies to deal with negative emotions. These include:
  • Don’t blow things out of proportion by going over them time and again in your mind.
  • Try to be reasonable - accept that bad feelings are occasionally unavoidable and think of ways to make yourself feel better.
  • Relax - use pleasant activities like reading, walking or talking to a friend.
  • Learn - notice how grief, loss and anger make you feel and which events trigger those feelings so you can prepare in advance.
  • Exercise - aerobic activity lowers your level of stress chemicals and allows you to cope better with negative emotions.
  • Let go of the past - constantly going over negative events robs you of the present and makes you feel bad.

Where to get help

  • Your doctor
  • Your local community health centre
  • The Mental Health Foundation of Victoria Tel. (03) 9427 0406

Things to remember

  • In the right context, negative emotions like anger, grief, sadness or jealousy are perfectly normal.
  • Long lasting bouts of negative emotions can stop you enjoying life.
  • Coping strategies can help to curb persistent negative feelings
  • Better Health Channel

Idioms


pay the piper: face the consequences for something you've done.
"I stayed up too late tonight. Tomorrow I'll have to pay the piper."
pooped: very tired; exhausted.
"I went to bed really early last night. I was pooped!"
pop quiz: unannounced short test.
"You shouldn't have missed class yesterday. We had a pop quiz."
pull an all-nighter: study or work all night without getting any sleep.
A: "You look really tired."
B: "I am. I pulled an all-nighter to get ready for the meeting this morning."
pull someone's leg: tease someone by trying to make her/him believe something
that's exaggerated or untrue.
A: "Wow! Carl has done some really amazing things!"
B: "Don't believe everything he tells you. He was probably pulling your leg."